My H mentioned that too, very early on, "That OW is jealous of the relationship you have with me." Oh really? The sort of relationship where one of you just gives the other the heave-ho on a moment's notice after 16 years and having a child together?
I have to just go back to the basics. What they are doing in this moment doesn't amount to a hill of beans. It is following a script. It's what that relationship is supposed to be... faking and trying too hard until that [censored] gets tiring.
I have to feather my nest with warmth and wait for him to be ready to land back here and rest.
I do really worry though that having safe harbor part of the time is what will make him be able to hold up this farce for that much longer. He doesn't have to carry the burden everyday 24/7. He gets to come home and take off the facade and rest up in between.
Perfect hun. My H's and I relationship was the end of both his other GF's
But I got strong and kind and good. I was funny, supportive, available, yet not.
I threw my empathy out to GF2 when she had a particularly hard time.
Still struggle with GF1. Frankly, if massage girl met an unfortunate end tomorrow I wouldn't cry.
Get that job. Become self sufficient (or kinda, I'm in the same boat). Don't be around when he is (or at least less...GAL!!)
No OW talk, cuz you? You don't care.
Wait for it, cuz H will say "Oh and Tiger Lily does this" or "Tiger Lily said"
Mark my words, our sitches have a lot of similarity (except for the money thing-you'll need a job)
H is not through with you. Tread carefully and one day you will realize that you have the power here. He can leave, screw who he likes, marry, divorce, whatever, but every single decision you make..from now on...is yours for you.
