Me 13 months on, affair finally confirmed.

[hotwheelsaust]

To all, still doing fine. A couple of small up and downs on the rollercoaster, but hey, that is just typical for us.
With Xmas coming soon, the mind cannot decide to send cards only to the family (in laws side) or simply ignore them completely. I am in the two frames of mind: I have to keep the door open for the W but she will come with baggage, and that is the family. Or do I simply just go, as 2old said, bar humbug?
Then the big one: do I send a card to the W also, or just a text message on the day "Merry Christmas" hotwheelsaust.
I am so looking forward to getting out of here, only 7 more days to go.
********Also letting everyone know - the internet goes off in two days (Sunday). I won't have access to any facebook and/or possibly this site (sometimes I have it on at school). So don't worry if you don't hear from me for about 2 weeks or so.

****** I am finding a lot of decisions are really getting to be either I am standing for my marriage or the W is in an affair and enough is enough, type fo thoughts.
For example: The car registration will be due in January. Do I pay it, as the W is using this car, or do I send the bill to her? Is she using me to pay for all the bills (she isn't sending half the money or even saying thanks) or am I helping the sitch by quietly doing this (as it is a kind of 180 paying for things without complaining)?
These decisions are getting to be more black and white, with no gray areas. Should I or should I not? It doesn't mean they are any easier.
I also have to look at myself and think maybe a lot of these thoughts are simply because I am leaving in one weeks time. Mabye it is just the mind playing with me.
Yesterday marked the day the W believed we started separation, so she has the right to go online and file for divorce.

In regards to other things in my sitch:
* No relatives, friends or sons have mentioned anything about the affair being confirmed by the W.
* No paperwork from the solicitor about legally allowing the house/s to be taken over. Bank has approved all loans for me now.
* Nothing from the W about finishing up here in the next week - not that it was expected.
* No return texts from the ex best friend when I thanked him for his support with my son's car. Nor a return text from the SIL when I advised I will not be paying board anymore for my son. Again I didn't have any expectations for either of them.