In home and separate homes seems like a big difference to me. We see each other everyday, sometimes most of the day! Eat together, do errands together, run the house together. I also would not want to trade it for out of house separation. My W sleeps in our home every night. That means a lot to me.
I won't bother posting my "loving from afar" techniques, 'cause T2 pretty much spelled it all out. But then he did kinda raise me ever since I was just a little LBS.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl