Heather, We do the hard work and they still complain. I know how your H has been too. I'm not going to change back. I know I needed to make those changes but our H's don't see the whole picture. They are truly broken.
I have a feeling my H is going to be very sorry. How do I know this? Because he has gone back and forth as it is. To just throw in the towel without giving it a try is unbelievable. Even his mother is on my side regarding D. We have also had very intimate moments throughout this time. How can you do this if you don't feel anything for that person? I couldn't but maybe that's me. And yes, the 2nd Thanksgiving and now the 2nd Christmas.
RL, I don't understand your H. In a way I would love to see you say if I'm so terrible what is keeping you here? He has it made with you. You are wonderful to him despite how horrible he is to you. I just wish he would tell RT "I can't do anything to get you a green card" and I bet he gets dumped in a matter of minutes. How can he see that (sometimes) but still want that situation.
I do feel so bad for our H's but that still does not give them the right to treat us so terrible. If my H stays with HW (homewrecker) then he'll have to deal with the fallout from the kids and his parents.
So I realize your H gave you the October deadline but my H has confessed he has already seen a lawyer because he has realized that he has been unhappy for a long long time, even before the issues with our oldest. He of course doesn't see what he did to me nor do I bring it up. Why? It wouldn't do any good. So I do think he'll go through with it. Afterall we were almost D'd about 1 1/2 years ago when he stopped it.
He also reported he wants to spend Christmas Eve with the kids and his family and I get Christmas Day. That means he doesn't intend to come over Christmas morning. I wonder how the kids will feel about that.
I am very upset at this news but as my kids say, I should have been expecting it. We have been separated for 1 1/2 years. I think it is just the reality. I know I'll be fine. I just have to get there.
Take care everyone.
M 48 H 50 M 25 T 27 D 20,18,15 6/11 H filed 3/12 H dropped 4/12 H moved out
