Well she should be jealous, she wants your life but is too insecure to find someone who isn't in a committed relationship!
He is a tricky one, but I do have the same concerns as you. I am wondering if I keep making things so safe and warm, well what will trigger him to realize what he is doing is...just plain wrong.
But seriously we don't want them the way they are right now. If this is what my H chooses to be then I may have to move on when I see he won't or can't do that. That is why we must wait, be mz congeniality and wait...and oh, wait some more.
I hear ya Tigs.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.