I wish I could take some comfort from knowing he came out of the same pod as some others... but from looking at everyone else's situations it seems like this model is a particularly tricky one. :P
My H mentioned that too, very early on, "That OW is jealous of the relationship you have with me." Oh really? The sort of relationship where one of you just gives the other the heave-ho on a moment's notice after 16 years and having a child together?
I have to just go back to the basics. What they are doing in this moment doesn't amount to a hill of beans. It is following a script. It's what that relationship is supposed to be... faking and trying too hard until that [censored] gets tiring.
I have to feather my nest with warmth and wait for him to be ready to land back here and rest.
I do really worry though that having safe harbor part of the time is what will make him be able to hold up this farce for that much longer. He doesn't have to carry the burden everyday 24/7. He gets to come home and take off the facade and rest up in between.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."