The only thing I wonder about is if I detach, gal, act as if I know he won't bring it up cause he doesn't like to "talk". I'm scared it will just be one of those times where it just gets left unsaid and sits under the rug and never gets dealt with.
You're putting the cart before the horse again.
Nothing will get better in your marriage until at least one of you starts doing things differently. And I don't mean for a couple of days, or a week or two; I mean for good.
For the record: I do not think that your marriage is unsalvageable (although I think abuse, whether emotional or physical, should be a deal-breaker). But I think it will take a LOT of work, and the best thing you can do is start with the one thing you have total control over—yourself.
I also don't think he will really leave you if he has control issues; he won't take the chance that you will learn to be happy without him. He will only move out or file for divorce to punish you, to coerce you into compliance.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
