Thank you once again for the wise words. I can totally see your points. Especially about just saying a friendly goodbye with a spring in my step.
It makes a lot of sense.
I suppose I will try just a quick goodbye, and if her door is shut ( i usually knock) maybe I will just go on my merry way.
Same thing with bedtime, maybe I will lay low for a while and see if she comes to me. Friendly, yet distant.
labug,
Were you put here to torture me???!!!!!
Just kidding, I TRULY Appreciate your words. It's hard sometimes when you are stuck thinking about something in one way. Its nice to have that 2x4 to help wake you up and see the other side.
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I think that it really made me look weak in her eyes.
Did she tell you that? Otherwise you don't know how it made you look. Keep the focus on you, did it make you feel weak? Is doing all those things, all the time the kind of husband you want to be?
No she did not directly say that taking care of the house made me look weak.
She has made other comments however.
1) I was making her feel bad because I was doing everything 2) It was nice having magic dresser drawars that always had clean clothes 3) She kept telling me to sit down and relax 4) calling me Mr. Clean
Unrelated to the cleaning:
1) She doesnt respect me 2) She told me that "begging doesnt become me" 3) I'm to easy
Words are words, However her actions clearly show her level of respect for me.
I have been reading the 5LL. Unfortunately my W LL is quality time. Which seems to be a rather impossible task these days
As much as i believe that I'm working on me, I can see how some of my actions and comments do show i'm worried about what she's thinking.
