Hoping for Reconciliation after being Separated...

[Ambivalent]

I also thought of something more , while showering this morn.

If he chooses not to work out the keeping the kids sit. and the counseling appt. is not soon enough. Hire a sitter. You need a break, and this is something that is important to you. Do not expect or rely on him to meet this. If he does, then you will be pleasantly surprised! This way YOU do not build up resentment for something you can actually accomplish yourself.

Do not withhold meeting his need though. For if you do , it will be keeping score and that too will bring you resentment.

Allow this to play out for awhile, he may come around on his own and feel better about it. It gives him a save face and may even let him believe it was his idea!

I would still share in the counseling session as well. For this IS a bugaboo for you.

Please know that all couples have irreconcilable issues. They may NEVER be worked out. Generally they are about core values, and to reconcile on them the individual has to give up something that is integral to their being.

Remember the mantra...does this bring us closer or push us apart?

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OOOOOh to have your issue right now...oh well BUSTING ON!