For the past few months I have been doing EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING. I wanted to do everything I could to make her happy.
I think that it really made me look weak in her eyes. I have since backed off. I still do things without being asked, and do my fair share.
Also, W asked if there was anything she could do. These were the things that I asked her to help with. (after she offered)
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I think it was good that you said no to picking D up, when it is W's job to do so. I hope that you at least told her you couldn't, rather than that you won't. There is that fine line of standing up for yourself/not rescuing her and being rude/punishing her.
I felt like i needed to say no. I understand that things come up, and I should not have a problem picking up D. However, When it becomes an every day, last minute occurance I am obviously being used. As if she would plan these activities, or use these excuses just because it was easier for me to pick her up.
There are other situations like this, that I will eventually have to start saying no to.
My plan is to get through the holidays, and then start standing up for myself more and more. Start implementing more boundaries.
