WBW how are you doing today? How is studying going????
I understand you about the anger. I used to scream and shout and let it all out....
It took me BD....a lot of reading, journaling, coaching and introspection to understand how letting my anger out on other people is NOT healthy or fair. In fact it was very selfish because in fact I was just hurting other people so I could feel better. It meant I was not expressing myself or my needs, or even understanding where the anger was coming from.
I was miserable from the inside.
And I never felt better for it.
And I hurt others for it.
Now? after starting to learn how to control my emotions and not hurt other people when I express myself or lash out when I am scared and hurt (I am still learning...always learning)...I have for the first time felt a true sense of calm from within.
I guess what I am trying to say is finding ways to not repress the anger, in ways that are healthy for you and actually release the frustration rather than build to it....
Working through the emotion....it has been invaluable to me.
You have of thoughts and emotions going on right now... take time to work though it.
(((((hugs)))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home