It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[Fight4MyWife]

So my wife brought my son in to see me at work again today, after taking him to see Santa over the road.

I thanked her and showed appreciation for her thinking of coming to see me, I love seeing my son & it brightens my day.

We chatted and she was really nice and things were very pleasant, it was just like old times the way we were speaking to each other.

It actually makes it harder though & makes me feel much worse when she is being nice. I find it easier to detach & let go when she is angry, hostile or cold because I don't like her like that. When she is being nice it makes it harder to detach & I just want to give her a big hug.

Also when the interactions between us are positive & pleasant like this it makes me tempted to ask if she his willing to talk to me about anything yet. Not necessarily about reconciliation but about how she feels etc, and why she feels the way she does.

A few weeks ago she was still angry & any attempt to talk to her pushed her further away and made her shut herself off from me.

Although I know there is still a risk of that happening again the fact we feel to be interacting more positively & she is being very nice makes me want to test the waters and see if she is ready to talk yet.

My wife is very quiet natured anyway, so sometimes will not express herself of her own accord in the best of situations and sometimes needs to be asked to share or express herself, so in some ways I feel like if she was ready to talk she might want me to prompt the conversation.