WOW AJ....that was quite the 2 x 4 upside the head.....I know that we can never have what we had, but, what makes you so sure that he won't put the brakes on at some point?
Have you seen it yet? The reason why it doesn't matter if he does put the brakes on? If not, I see it as because even if he did, you couldn't trust him. You. This is really not as much about him or his antics. This isn't about him bullying you. That's what is in your face, certainly. And it needs to be dealt with. But the truth is, he could say he had an epiphany on his way to work and was healed by a guy with a beard that put mud on his eyes and now he wants to come back etc... But you couldn't trust him.
Will he put the brakes on at some point? I submit that if he did, you'll be long gone and it won't matter what he does. You'll wish him well and wish him to be further away at the same time. You'll wake up in the morning grateful that you are no longer "connected" to him. Perhaps missing what you had, but also looking forward to what you'll have next.
Not trying to clue-by-four you. Trying to help you change perspective to deal with what is at hand. Clearly and calmly.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
