Wife says she wants to leave

[melissag]

However, her girlfriend came over and stayed the night. I guess my problem with this is, when she said she wanted a separation, she said that she needed time to herself. TIME TO HERSELF. I think she has maybe had one or two days that she has actually been alone. Does she really want time to herself, or was that her way of saying, time without you.

Should I mention anything? Like, "You haven't really spent much time to yourself since the separation"???

Nooooooo! What she does is not for you to judge or question. And yes, when she said she needed time to herself, she meant time away from you.

Why did she spend the night at your house? This seems weird to me. Did she ask first or does she just do whatever she wants?

I have always seeked her out before I go to work. I tell her goodbye and have a nice day and used to end with a kiss and a hug. Do I even do this anymore? Should I just leave for work and not say anything? She never seeks me out.

Same thing at bed time. Do i go downstairs and tell her goodnight? Or do I just go to sleep?

I would not try the hug and kiss before work. However, I think it would come across as rude or cold to just leave without saying goodbye. I would poke my head around the corner, or yell to wherever she is, or whatever you need to do, and say, "bye! have a good day!" or something equally nice but without pressure.

Same thing at bed time. Though I thought she moved out - am I remembering your sitch wrong?