And if you won't lift a finger to help yourself, consider your kids.

If your husband is as bad as I think he is, once he's done emotionally battering you into submission, they'll probably be next in line. Control freaks don't like ANYTHING happening without their permission.

And if he doesn't, then consider what your sons are learning about love and marriage from the two of you. Do you want them growing up thinking that the women in their life have to be stupid and weak? Do you want them going out into the world looking for women they can push around, the way their father pushes you around?

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."