Space for Rent

[JuneReN]

SNORT!!

Ummm, STFU much???

[BrightFuture]

Ruby, good job calling him on his decisions. I need to read that post again to see if I can learn how to do it in my life. Not that H is in contact with me like yours is, but I need to have a cool head and clear thinking in case he wants to offer some help with anything (like he wanted to do last year, saying that he would be glad to come to the house and do some work once in a while. Not that it actually happened.)

Mine used "Life is too short" or "It is what it is"
I felt like screaming "Shut up already!!"

Oh, this is exactly what my H used to say and I’m sure still does. This is why he needs to start the next phase of his life “after me”.

[JuneReN]

Today I'm kind of done with H. Good thing we don't live together...
still managing those "I'm so sorry you died" feelings not as well as I would like.

[LoisB]

Me too bestie. Remember the days when we didn't think about dissolutions, affairs, OW's and support payments??

Those were the days.

[JuneReN]

Those were the days.... we just got a shovel and called up our besties....

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Kate,

Thanks for the kind words. I'll admit to enough of an ego that Legend made me smile, but the truth is I'm just a guy, who got lucky and managed to DB for as long as I could until I got lucky.

You ladies here seem to have a great support system among yourselves, never underestimate how critical and vitally important that is.

This time, however, when the dance came around, I bowed out.

Congrats, this seems like such a small statement, but here is the underlying truth...every single LBS here, every one of you in truth has the control and power over the relationship. The choice to act or react, and in the end, the real power of whether the relationship lives or dies.

[LoisB]

Jack, yes, you are a legend around these parts. I've learned so much from your posts. Thank you.

I love the idea that we, the LBS-ers, hold the power when it comes to ending the relationship. It sure doesn't feel that way today.

Much Love,
Heather

[JuneReN]

Okay, quick post, and thoughts.

Just the facts.

I texted H and said that I asked S17 to check out a particular website on a gift for D14. S is knowledgeable in this gift area.

I asked if H would like to get her that (a biggie because it's one of two things she has asked for)

I mentioned that I got D clothes, but also explained to H that I said to D that there wouldn't be much under the tree from me, but we would have an awesome Christmas.

H said "That sounds great but let's work together in this and ensure that the kids have a wonderful Christmas. No need to say (gifts) from me or from Dad."


I'll post how I responded later

[JuneReN]

Oh...by thoughts...your thoughts?

[LoisB]

Just the facts Ma'am.

So, by thoughts, is there something in particular you are looking for?? A particular color or size?

Sounds like he is being very nice and definitely wants a family sorta Christmas.

Watch out for the Expectation Monster.

Love to You,

Bestie