^^That was just journalling, but my rather long winded point is that I recognized the dynamic and stopped it before it played out.
Now I see what Heather thinks in terms of Her H needing her to be weak.
H needs me to make his decisions so he can have someone to blame if they don't work out. I've seen him do this in every area of his life. Or he will begin to self sabotage in order not to succeed and therefore not to fail.
This time, however, when the dance came around, I bowed out.
