I think you are doing a great job. I hope you don't feel like you HAVE to meet with him because you don't. If he gets you so upset, maybe it's best for your attorney to handle him--especially if he spinning outta control. It sounds like he is spinning like a top.
Lots of love to you,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
I sent it pretty much as Wonka suggested. I did add "I will also need a list of the topics you're wanting to discuss".
Thank you for your support and "words" so I don't get caught up in his crazy. We've been together so long Linda he knows how to get me......I guess my one vantage is he can't see me so he only sees my written response. He doesn't see it "hit home".
The child support is based soley on his income. My spousal is based on both, yes, my income took a hit when I lost my corporate order, he doesn't know that yet and I told my lawyer this am. The issue becomes I need a certain amount in child support and spousal to qualify for the mortgage. God, I wish I was rich and could make him go away.
What was I thinking with him!?!?!? I'm smart......love [censored]. Next man will need to be 100 and rich!! We'll see how the other women do it!! (Just kidding.....maybe:)). Lol
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
Mlcers tend to knock on our doors when we least expect it, especially around the holidays. Your h is lonely, broke, living in a dive and most likely missing the family that is going on w/o him. Of course, he's not looked in the mirror and realized that he is the one that put him in the position he's in.
They choose this life and it really seems sad to me. To throw away so much for so little. Worse, to not be able to make amends but to continue to punish themselves and their families.
What he appears to be trying to do is undermine the Judicial Conference. And I can see why - he may now be unrepresented and he is going to look very bad when the judge will ask about child support. Who wouldn't want to avoid that? Some reality is creeping in whether he recognizes it or not.
I was a bit confused by your lawyer's comment as well, spousal support in Canada is very different than in the States, but does BC not have Child Support Guidelines that are purely dependent upon income? In any event, those particular details are why you have hired a lawyer; she will know them all and let you kow what is accpetable and what is not.
Just got this from my lawyer After our phone conversation of today I reviewed your file. No, no word from H's lawyer re our urgent letter of Nov. 26th. I have left him a further message today. I expect you are correct, that Jean has not paid him, and for that reason he (lawyer) is not returning my calls.
Just got a text from H Ok this may not work.....thought I would give being amicable one more shot but you continue to point the finger. We should probably just wait until next Friday.
Next move"??? Besides a bat upside the head (that's my thought)
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
OMG! I could just throttle this man! He is such a bully and a huge @ss.
He really is trying to pressure you into agreeing to negotiate w/him. Well, it looks like to me it's now out of your hands and you do not have to worry about meeting him. He's flipped over and I bet he's hoping that you'll come back and say, "h, we can still meet. I'll be happy to meet w/you. Please don't shut me out because I do want to work on things w/you". Give me a break...does he really think you are that stupid and would jump through hoops to meet w/him after acting like this?
WR, after this little missive, I would sit tight and wait until next Friday, which is the 13th. I'm telling you, you can't rationalize with him and yes, dear...he's a nutty buddy butter cup.
Your next move? Absolutely nothing. Sit quietly and the answers will come. He's toying w/you. Leave him in the stew pot to simmer. Step back, don't play his game.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm glad you both said that....I was going to respond "whatever you like" but that's probably going to engage him further.
I wish someone would throttle him, till he passes out, my tenant says violence isn't the answer. I don't know if agree. Lol
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
That's right, Mr. Peter Pan, when you got called out and you got all pissy! Too F-king bad!! Live with it.
Yeah, I wouldn't dignify a response to the latest missive from H, WR. Let it stand on it's own silly pinhead. Let him stew 'till all the cows come home.
WR, Just let the subject drop. I would plan on going to the hearing next week. This man has been toying w/you and most likely had no intention of working things out in a civil manner. He wanted to see where your head was at. You've come too far to allow this man to play w/your mind and heart.
He created this mess all by his lonesome, therefore, he will be in that big stew pot for a long time by himself. Violence may not be the answer, but electric shock treatments would help him quite a bit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Yup, you're at the 1-yard line at the touchdown zone...and you gotta keep the focus squarely on getting that football over the TD plane! And we're right here to push you all the way to VICTORY, WR.
