WR, Just let the subject drop. I would plan on going to the hearing next week. This man has been toying w/you and most likely had no intention of working things out in a civil manner. He wanted to see where your head was at. You've come too far to allow this man to play w/your mind and heart.
He created this mess all by his lonesome, therefore, he will be in that big stew pot for a long time by himself. Violence may not be the answer, but electric shock treatments would help him quite a bit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.