What's going on with OM? Does she see him regularly? Is it a PA? How often do they see each other?
Yes the OM affair is a PA/EA. She confessed feelings for him on BD and she had only been talking to him for 4 days. She said she was confused and needed to find out if this "really is what it feels like it is". He promised her he would get a second job and even move to our city (he lives 1.5 hours away) if she left me. He never moved to our city, infact he lost his job and was unemployed for 6 months. He has a job now, and so does Wife, but no moving and no further comitments made.
she goes to see him Sunday night and returns Tuesday evening usually. I think those are his off days from work. Last time she went, she came back Monday night. She messaged me that she was "on her way home" out of the blue, I didnt respond. She's been home now, skipped two Sundays.
I've been very distant from when she last returned from her stay with him. I sensed something could be wrong between them, and I didnt want to be the comforting source. And as Accuray said, I battle with some anger sometimes. I never show it though.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
