on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

Things are going downhill fast and furious today. I just got a call from her and she said the only thing she can do at this point is a separation with no rules/we see other people. If I can't agree to that, she wants to proceed with the divorce. She was all business, no emotion, no hesitating...

She said she doesn't need to do a separation where we don't see other people anymore. She wants to be able to see the OM and see where that relationship goes and put ours completely on hold. She also said to not look at this as a failure but to look at it as us doing the right thing for ourselves.

I don't want an open marriage. I don't feel comfortable dating someone else when I am married for the sake of all parties involved. I also don't like the precedent it sets for future issues that may arise in our marriage, should a miracle occur and we put it back together.

I imagine that this separation will be 2 weeks - a month or so before she decides to proceed with the divorce anyway. She seems completely far gone and out.

She is supposed to come over tonight to pack some more things. Do I just tell her that I won't stand for an open marriage? Do I tell her to proceed with the divorce?