Thank you ALL for your continued support. Some excellent points. I'd like to take a few hours to think about why I've been cold, what my expectations are, and gather my thoughts so I can respond. Please look at for a response from me later tonight. I really need to figure out what I'm doing.

As far as OM, her best friens told me she hs broken up with him many times. I suspect that she is warming when they are cooling, which would be logical.

I'm at work right now and she's been mesaging me all day about getting a tree put up tonight. She wants me to go buy a real tree as we have done every year, because our 'home doesn't feel christmasy'. This is her favorite time of the year and she always decorates the whole house. This year she has done nothing until the talk today. Now she has it planned out that after D3 is in bed, 'WE will put the lights up, and the tree, and all the other decorations.

Let me go and reread all the responses from you all and think them over before I get any further.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017