Mlcers tend to knock on our doors when we least expect it, especially around the holidays. Your h is lonely, broke, living in a dive and most likely missing the family that is going on w/o him. Of course, he's not looked in the mirror and realized that he is the one that put him in the position he's in.
They choose this life and it really seems sad to me. To throw away so much for so little. Worse, to not be able to make amends but to continue to punish themselves and their families.
What he appears to be trying to do is undermine the Judicial Conference. And I can see why - he may now be unrepresented and he is going to look very bad when the judge will ask about child support. Who wouldn't want to avoid that? Some reality is creeping in whether he recognizes it or not.
I was a bit confused by your lawyer's comment as well, spousal support in Canada is very different than in the States, but does BC not have Child Support Guidelines that are purely dependent upon income? In any event, those particular details are why you have hired a lawyer; she will know them all and let you kow what is accpetable and what is not.
