New And Scared...trying to boyfriend bust!

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Hi...my XH left me, and the truth is we are still technically married. Divorce has progressed slowly because my D11 was diagnosed with Epilepsy shortly after he left. It has been a long road. Now technicalities keep delaying divorce being finalized, my XH is in the military and conveniently always "underway" or "working" on court dates.

I actually used DB when going through the end of that relationship which is why I came back.

Everything I did worked the first time...my XH wanted back and still does which is why I think he is being difficult. The problem was he was extremely verbally abusive and as I DB'ed him, I realized that he did me a huge favor by leaving me!

My BF has never pressured me to divorce quickly, and over the years he has witnessed my obstacles there. It is a factor in our relationship, of course. I realize this.

It should be final soon, and I am hoping that helps BF and I move forward...even though it hasn't been an obvious issue.

I knew to come back here not because I want my BF to marry me...but I remember the support here and how it kept me on track when I felt like my heart was broken and I wasn't worth of love. I remember this site saving me and in this case, I am in need of some 2x4's when it comes to my BF and his efforts to maintain our relationship as it is now. I really don't want to lose this guy.

Should I move to the other thread with this?