Thanks. Husband has been a willing participant in the counseling sessions, although up to right before the separation it always ended up with going back to all the old issues we had been dealing with since September. Our counselor does alot of the "how does that make you feel" or "what do you feel about that" and I want our sessions to be more productive. I get not asking him to come home (although this totally [censored] at this time of year). I do want to try the phone counseling but absolutely don't have the money to do it right now - things are very, very tight. He still works with his affair partner, which is tough but I know not to ask about her at all during our session (it is our first since the separation). I will definitely try to be totally positive today and seem in control and easy going, even though I feel like total crap!!!
