Being the nice person isn't always fun!

[CallaghanClown]

Well I'm not sure what happened but I perked right up about an hour before he got here. Then when he got here I took one look at him and just didn't care who this girl was or what he was doing with her. He's not the man I married, he is a stranger and for as long as he's having supervised access to the kids, then I don't care who he's messing about with.

Things will change once he has time alone with the kids. Until then he's on his own, I'm not getting drawn into his drama. Don't get me wrong I'm not going to allow this behaviour to continue. I won't enable him, but I'm not prepared to show him my hand.

I'm not sure what he knows but I'm presuming he's feeling very guilty about whatever he's up to. He came in and instantly made me a cup of tea. He did tell me an inappropriate story in front of the kids, which I cut off and asked him to be more careful about what he talks about. He made a fuss about me going off to another room, he did this in front of the kids, so I felt I had to stay in the same room as him. I did leave for an hour or so for a cuddle with D4 in my bed. He ate with me, it's the first time he's eaten here since he left.

There were quite a few occasions when I had to say "I'm not sure how to answer that". For instance the hot water is broken, I called an engineer and H asked why I didn't let him know.

H also got his anti D's out and took them in front of me. I knew it was to demonstrate he's taking his meds.....which is great....but it's all for attention. He turned up all smartly dressed, but still looked a mess. He told me at least 5 times that he's not sleeping again. He started talking about moving into his own place (currently with a friend) for 6 months (1.5 hrs away) then moving back to where we live to be closer to the kids.

So again ignoring what he says and concentrating on what he does:

Made me tea, twice.

Asked me to collect the kids with him.

Ate dinner with me, at home.

Asked me to stay in the room with him and the kids.