Nicole, welcome to the forums! It sounds to me like you're putting a lot of pressure on your BF. You probably don't even realize you're doing it.
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I have issues from my marriage ( my husband up and left me out of the blue one day...which I now know wasn't out of the blue, but it was very traumatizing for me needless to say). I think this has trickled over into this relationship and I just want to fix everything and get my sweet, loving boyfriend back. I have so much guilt. I am scared I may lose him for good.
Clinging to him is not going to "fix everything". I get the sense that this is what you're doing. Instead you need to back off! Give him time and space. Have you read DR? Read that first if you haven't, then you might check out Dobson's "Love Must Be Tough". It does a good job of describing the distance/ pursuit cycle. Right now you're pursuing and your BF is distancing. Your natural inclination is to pursue even harder, but that just pushes him farther and farther away. Guys are not attracted to clingy women!! So when he pulls back, instead of pursuing you need to pull back too. He doesn't want to have Thanksgiving with you? No problem, you've got your own plans! He doesn't call or text? No biggie, you're busy! Pretty soon HE will start thinking he's losing YOU, then HE will start to pursue. Play it cool, let him come to you. Be mysterious, be independent, show PMA, get out and GAL.
