Thank you so much for the replies already - you are all correct that I can't believe it. I am in the surreal position that this is mostly being blamed on my tendency to anger and blow up at him (which he started writing down in the last year, but only recorded two times) - but I do not feel any anger at him! I am also already shellshocked to read the advice about a lawyer and rights - I can't believe it, because that is so contrary to where my head is at and - strangely though it would seem - I still trust him. We see each other every day because of the kids. I just can't get my head around this.
M 20 yrs me 47 H 51 s11 d8
BD 10/8/13 H Moved out 11/30/13 OW slept over with children Dec '13 OW moved in w/H Jan '14