Sandi, THAT was an awesome post. Words to live by. I began examining the respect factor based on your recommendation when I first joined the forum. And you were absolutely right, I had let my wife be the leader and she has lost complete respect for me....and with it went attraction.

On the day of BD, I cried like a baby and begged her not to leave me. And she kept saying 'stop, you are making it worse'. At that time she was still saying she was confused and now in hindsight I see it was the begging and crying that made her move to very sure.

Every husband should take charge, keep things exciting, plan stuff, fill life with surprises.

Solid advice sandi

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017