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[SM34]

MrBond, the truth is, I'm confused!! Feeling down on my self. Thank you for being here for me. Please help me get back on track, I'm not ready to quit.

I've been completely confused as to what to do. When I engage her, we have an awesome time and we laugh and joke and even flirt a little sometimes. But then I read threads here and people are being told to back off and do your own thing. Also the advice is to not be a 'friend' if they are seeing someone else.

I don't want to quit. This is important to me. I want my family, and I want a good future for all of us.

So, MrBond, can you help me? I need to know what you think should be my position towards her given the time that has lapsed and her lack of wanting to actually leave me. I mean she doesn't seem to want to let go of me and I guess that's a good thing, but it also makes it harder in some ways.

Do I take her and oir daughter on vacation? Vacationd used to be our way of bonding with each other. We used to go in vacations four or five times a year and I believe it is what kept us close.

When we ran into financial difficulties three years ago, we stopped going at all. And everything went downhill from then on. She has said many times that we don't DO anything and life is boring

If I go on vacation, am I not giving her cake to eat? See how confused I am? I want to ignore that advice and just dive into being the awesome guy i know she likes, and having fun and doing stuff with her, but I stop myself because I've read so much about not giving them what they want.

Am I missing something?

I want to vacation. In fact, I NEED to vacation. Its beena long time and i have worked hard, and i have earnd it. But does it make sense?

Mrbond you have no idea how I felt when I saw you were responding. I'm have a cr@p morning and trying hard to keep the negatives out.

Last night she said 'Did you read my messages about our vacation?' ...

I was still not sure how to appreciate it. I said yes but not enthusiastically. . She said...

'You love vacations. I thought you would be all over this!!'

Did I screw it up? Should I start planning something? She loves surprises and if she thinks I haven't planned anything but then i have, it would be HUGE. She harbors bad feelings about ne not planning our vacations well.

Help!