And, don't leave out the possibility of her losing her job when you are deciding on this other position. My H switched jobs, but I know there are some who are fired or quit. I'm sure you will do the right thing--but, keep this possibility in the mix.
Very small chance of her having a job problem unless she just dropped off the face of the earth. She's a goddess at her school where she teaches. Been there for 17 years. It's amazing the friends she has gravitated towards in the last year or so. I sat and watched her talk last night with 2 people while at bball game: 1) BFF who has been on the brink of D for over 2 years from a H who has lost 2 jobs, drinks, smokes, and is verbally abusive to their kids. 2) Another coworker that is recently D and is happier than ever with her new man. This is the woman that W has talked about like a dog because of her treatment of her 2 daughters. One is a sexually promiscuous 15 year old who sneaks out of the house and the other is a 4 year old that wanders away from the house into neighbors homes all the time. These are the folks W is talking to for hours at a time. Filling her head with more BS.
The one friend that I know is happily married and has tried to talk rational with her she talks to only randomly now. They work right beside of one another, but outside of work have very little conversation now. Funny isn't it?
Reflecting on her latest rant this weekend I thought I'd share MLC logic with everyone. Classics I heard:
-Have you ever thought that I don't want to wash clothes, do dishes, or sweep the floors because I don't want to be here with you?
-Maybe I don't want to pay bills because I don't want to be anything with you.
I failed to realize that these were acts of love. I guess I'll call the bank and explain that we are behind on the mortgage because W doesn't love me anymore. I'm sure they will appreciate the logic.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
