Her visit did not sit well with me. I decided to try something different and share some of my thoughts as recommended by my TC. After deciding how to proceed, I called her. I told her I was concerned about her. I told her I felt like she was depressed. I have observed that she has not gotten better since she moved out. That she sits in her apartment all the time watching movies and playing games. When she has a week off from work, she still isn’t happy. I asked her what she looks forward to and she said she looks forward to nothing. She stated that I thought she was crazy. I told her I never said that and that I would appreciate it if she would listen to what I am saying rather than interpret it. I said I didn’t know what to say or do, but I was concerned. She made a sarcastic comment about how she was suppose to believe she would be all better if she moved back in. I told her no, but that I helped offset some of her negativity. That I sometimes made her laugh or forget about work. She said that if she knew how to get better didn’t I think she would do it? I said sometimes it is easier to just keep doing the same thing. I told her to let me know if she thought there was anything I could do. She said she appreciated that. It was a short phone call. Most of the conversation she didn’t say anything. The pessimist in me wonders if she was distracted by TV and not really listening to me. Not sure how DB I was, but I feel I need to change our dynamic. Experiment and monitor results right?
