And, don't leave out the possibility of her losing her job when you are deciding on this other position. My H switched jobs, but I know there are some who are fired or quit. I'm sure you will do the right thing--but, keep this possibility in the mix.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
