New to DB~~seeking insight

[juliegayle]

Hi. Something you wrote on another thread sent me over here to read your story.

I was so sorry to hear about the loss of your twins. Im glad you found support.

I recently was talking to a friend and asking why my H was running away (away from me and family and to alcohol and OW). She pointed out all the pressure he had been in over years. Ongoing medical issues for S, miscarriage a few years later, 3 year unemployment(him) cancer scare and surgery (me).

I am not making excuses for my H or yours. Just one thing to consider when trying to piece this all together.

Also some very wise people on this board have advised me not to try to assign any meaning or motive to anything H does. It is hard to stop but I def feel better when I can.