If this is an ongoing problem, he's not going to suddenly change. Have you thought about seeing a L? I know that wounds scary but your S's needs aren't going to change just because he doesn't want to pay.

What are you ideas?

Become Mama Bear.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss