I have a suggestion. Job, would you be comfortable role-playing here for WR? It seems that WR is feeling out of sorts here and very nervous about her encounter with H. My thought is for me to act like H and you act like WR, Job. This way, WR will feel a bit more than ready for her face-to-face encounter with H.
Thoughts, Job?
Thank you Wonka. You'd be reading me correctly. I have it sat down with this man in 7months. It's nerve wracking
Originally Posted By: kml
I don't actually recommend a face-to-face without a mediator present. Usually the WAS will try to bully the LBS into something that is not in their favor.
Better perhaps to say let's keep this to email, and tell him you will send him your proposal tomorrow (or whenever you will have had time to run it by your attorney).
Consider also the possibility that he's pissed off his attorney (or not paid him) and that's why you haven't heard?
Thank you KML. I will let my lawyer know what he's up to and see what her suggestions about talking to him are. I do feel like it's a conflict for her though, she doesn't get paid if I don't use her, so I'm expecting some scare tactics too.
Originally Posted By: job
Wait for his message and if he says to meet him somewhere. Ask him what time and where. I would arrive early so that you can get a good seat near the exit.
I think you should listen to what he has to say. You can try negotiating, but remember...he's looking out for his best interests and not the best interests of you and your sons. This why he's wanting to do this outside of the court...he doesn't want to have to spend his money on court fees nor be "forced" into paying child support at a certain time, nor be ordered to pay delinquent child support that is owed to you for your sons.
Once the discussion comes to an end, advise him that you need to think about what has be discussed and you'll get back to him. You see, I have seen this type of thing go down many times and it doesn't always end well. Why? Because you can't trust the MLCer. Today, he's willing to tell you what you want to hear and tomorrow he'll swear that is not what he said or agreed to. It's he said, she said conversation and if you don't have someone there as a witness to the conversation, then you have no proof that he agreed to anything you negotiated. Do you see where I'm going w/this? You would need to have a document typed up with your negotiated items/terms and the both of you would need to have it signed and notarized because I do not trust this man one bit. If he's not in agreement with having the document types, signed and notarized so that you can give it to lawyers, then the negotiation would be off the table...but you need to keep your lawyer in the loop and see what she advises you what to do. Do not agree or finalize any negotiations w/o her input. Okay?
No, you don't need to vomit! You can do this. You just have to keep your anger and emotions in check. You have to be on your toes and two steps ahead of him.
Originally Posted By: Whiterose
Ok I'll wait for him to message me again and ask where and when.
Any possibility with Christmas coming he's feeling me out? Seeing how Ill "be" when we get together? On Sunday I posted a status to fb to the effect of it was a great day and I was rather enjoying doing what I wanted when I wanted Wonder if he sAw it and it made him angry.
Note to self....no vomit allowed:)
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
