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WR,
You do realize that you hold the key to setting him completely free? You have want he wants most...a divorce. If you don't feel comfortable in meeting him, then don't do it. No one can make you do this, not even your h.

I would sit down and make a list of what you feel needs to be discussed. Do not meet him w/o your list in case he asks you what your thoughts are. The list will help you stay focused and also remind you of what you want to discuss. Here are a few things that I would be concerned about:

1. Back payment of child support would need to be paid by December 30, 2013.
2. Reimbursement check or a check in the amount of $$$$ needs to be provided to me by December 20, 2013. This particular reimbursement check was not his to spend. This should have been returned to you a month or so ago. So no slacking on a time frame for reimbursement here.
3. Scheduled child support would begin January 1, 2013 and the payments will be on time or you can have his wages garnished and the check deposited to your account. You can let him think about this one.
4. Visitation w/the boys will be scheduled at least three days prior to doing so (you can negotiate the time on this one).
5. Visits at the home will be done when I am at home. There will be no unscheduled visits to the home.
6. No more discussions w/your older son about the divorce or expenses, etc.
7. All of your personal belongings need to be picked up by December 30, 2013.
8 Provide a list of items in the home that you want. (These can be negotiated). Advise him that once you have accommodated him on these items, there will no coming back and requesting additional items.

You can continue the list of talking points. I think I've tried to cover most of your concerns in the list, but I'm sure you'll have others.