I don't actually recommend a face-to-face without a mediator present. Usually the WAS will try to bully the LBS into something that is not in their favor.
Better perhaps to say let's keep this to email, and tell him you will send him your proposal tomorrow (or whenever you will have had time to run it by your attorney).
Consider also the possibility that he's pissed off his attorney (or not paid him) and that's why you haven't heard?
Ok I'll wait for him to message me again and ask where and when.
Any possibility with Christmas coming he's feeling me out? Seeing how Ill "be" when we get together? On Sunday I posted a status to fb to the effect of it was a great day and I was rather enjoying doing what I wanted when I wanted Wonder if he sAw it and it made him angry.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, You do realize that you hold the key to setting him completely free? You have want he wants most...a divorce. If you don't feel comfortable in meeting him, then don't do it. No one can make you do this, not even your h.
I would sit down and make a list of what you feel needs to be discussed. Do not meet him w/o your list in case he asks you what your thoughts are. The list will help you stay focused and also remind you of what you want to discuss. Here are a few things that I would be concerned about:
1. Back payment of child support would need to be paid by December 30, 2013. 2. Reimbursement check or a check in the amount of $$$$ needs to be provided to me by December 20, 2013. This particular reimbursement check was not his to spend. This should have been returned to you a month or so ago. So no slacking on a time frame for reimbursement here. 3. Scheduled child support would begin January 1, 2013 and the payments will be on time or you can have his wages garnished and the check deposited to your account. You can let him think about this one. 4. Visitation w/the boys will be scheduled at least three days prior to doing so (you can negotiate the time on this one). 5. Visits at the home will be done when I am at home. There will be no unscheduled visits to the home. 6. No more discussions w/your older son about the divorce or expenses, etc. 7. All of your personal belongings need to be picked up by December 30, 2013. 8 Provide a list of items in the home that you want. (These can be negotiated). Advise him that once you have accommodated him on these items, there will no coming back and requesting additional items.
You can continue the list of talking points. I think I've tried to cover most of your concerns in the list, but I'm sure you'll have others.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
No, I don't think Christmas and your FB page have anything to do w/this. I think his attorney has gotten in touch w/him and has advised him that he's in hot water over the child support, etc.
Just remember, your lawyer is there to protect you and help you get what you need. I don't like the idea of him wanting to sit down w/you at this late date to try to negotiate a settlement. It makes me very uneasy. But you have to be the one to decide what you want to do...but always keep in mind, they don't play fair and when it comes to money and their freedom, they'll do anything or say anything to get what they want. Look at wishing,hoping is going through. If your gut says don't do it, then don't. Your gut will never lie to you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
