I think I can stop this.... can you help me?

[Fitz]

It just happened again. W called me on her break. She just wanted to let me know that she wasn't planning on "blindsiding" me. She said that whatever happens she wants to work together. I told her that was good. She went on to tell me that this was her breaking point and that she didnt know what she wanted to do. I agreed and told her that we both need more time to think it through. She told me once again that she still loved me and wished we could have a future together. I just told her that I understood and that if she felt like she had to leave then I wouldn't stop her. She told me to stop leaving all of the decisions up to her. I just replied that this was not my idea and I had already let her know what I wanted. She asked if That was still what I want (stay together), and I said of course, I took a vow and I'm invested and committed to my family, but I'm also trying to work on myself at the same time. She told me how impossible it would be to work this out, and how we have tried so many times and gotten the same results. I just told her that sometimes you get a wake-up call and that you learn from your past failure, and anything is possible if 2 people want it. She went on to talk more doubt and negativity. I was sorry that I had gotten in this conversation with her, but at the same time there has been some tension between us the past day or so, so someting needed to be said. She went on about how she just doesnt know, and I told her that we should just take some time to think about it.

I do feel like she was pursuing me a little, but I also expected this and tried to stay off of her rollercoaster the best that I could.

One of her big points that she was trying to get across to me was that she wanted me to like her friends and hang out with them more and not have a problem with her going out with them. I tild her that I have always gone out with them when I was invited and I have always gotten along great with them. I told her over the past 3 weeks she has gone out with them about 5 times and I havent said anything to her negatively about it.

I think another problem may be that she has badmouthed me so much to her friends that she would have a hard time going back to them now and telling them that she has decided to give it another try with me. But that is not my problem, it is hers