While he was here, he did start reconnecting with his family. He went to his brother's house on Thanksgiving day (I declined his invitation to join him - wanted him to have space to see them on his terms). I can't remember the last time he did that without a formal invitation for some family get-together.
He also went to his parents house for dinner one night when I was out. That was a disaster - he and his Dad just don't see eye-to-eye on much of anything. He came home and started taking his frustrations out on me, we fought and that was the night he left the house and spent the night at the office.
I had dreaded going with him to see them and was really glad when he didn't suggest we all go to dinner or something. I felt really bad that things got so ugly - I knew I could have run interference for him - but, he has to rebuild his life himself and be accountable for what he has done. Still, it's tough to just sit back and watch it.
New rules on the texting. He texted this morning (I hadn't even had a sip of coffee yet) and said that not contacting each other when one of us may be asleep only left about a 5 hour window and that it s#$@ed. So, we agreed to text at anytime - he will set his texting app to silent when he's asleep.
As hard as it was, I did not contact him during our "black out" and it seems he didn't like that. I think I will still stick to replies for the most part with maybe a occasional "touch base" text so he doesn't think I'm completely ignoring him.
Thoughts?
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
