This is the path I have chosen. I am not ready to give up on my M.
Will I have the strength to deal with an A? I don't know. What I do hope is that by DB'ing I will be strong enough to deal with whatever may come.
While I understand that an EA is serious business, and in no way am I discounting it's effect on a M, a PA would be MUCH more serious to me. My main Love langauge is Physical Touch. In that aspect, I feel like it would be a complete betrayal.
If there is a PA, it would take everything in my being for me to overcome it.
It would also take an emmense amount of work on her part. Full disclosure, checking in, being consistent on where she is, or who she's with. I know that trust does not come easy, it would very likely take many years for trust to be rebuilt.
While I understand the notion of boundaries, I'm having a hard time implementing them. I'm not sure what would constitute a boundary. I need to do a lot more reading.
