Well going dark is working well for me. My attitude is better, I'm not constantly obsessing over what he's up to. After 2 weeks of him moving out I'm only contacting about D9 and financing. I have had him contact several times first, of course no R talks but I didn't expect them this early.
At Thanksgiving I was upbeat and enjoyed being with family. My mother asked what was up and I told her I've given him over to God to work on and I'm not trying to fix anything.
I'm sure he's wondering what's up but I'm leaving him to figure out himself and I'm going to enjoy the holidays and my new life. I'm sure I'll be down again but right now I feel awesome compared to when he was here spewing every few days.
He told me he had to find someone to keep D9 during Christmas break when he has her and I didn't offer up suggestions. I'm letting him figure all that up and stepping back, no more rescuing or mothering.
H-44 Me-43 D9 T-13 years M-12 years BD-8/21/13 Sep- 11/19/13 D in process
