Where am I at pt 2

[SM34]

I'd like to point out something that has been pointed out to me and many others by the more experinced folks around here (such as Sandi, MrBond, Accuray and others)....

You do not want your wife back...not the person she is right now. Or even the person she was, because that person had an affair and betrayed you...

What the LBS should be open to is a marriage with a new and much improved WAS. A spouse who has looked inward and examined and rectified all the internal issues that lead to the poor decision making.

If you can hold on, then you should. But only to see if your wife is capable of such a profound change. In the meantime of course, you work on ironing out your own issues. You are not ready for a relationship with anyone right now, so what do you have to lose?

When you are ready to get back into a relationship, you can look at whether the wife qualifies for anther chance. And if not, then so be it. But be careful not to write it off so soon because we have seen examples of WAS changing dramatically on here...

Of course the decision is yours and yours only. No one will judge you for making your own decision and you would have ever right to throw in the towel whenever you feel it is the right time.