but it is hard for me to believe that a person will leave a R to make another person happy.
Thanks for your response. I just want to clarify one thing and can only speak of my situation, I don't think my H left to make me happy. He left because HE was unhappy but was then surprised that I wasn't happy. He had felt so discounted by my actions that he thought I wouldn't care.
Same here. My H said that, during our M, there were times that he really thought I disliked him so much that I would be happier if he just wasn't around.
It hurt like hell to hear him say that, but I believe him. There was some other "script" I didn't believe - the "I don't love you" and such.
Though I have to say, even things that are "script" aren't BS to the person saying them. I think that when a WAS says things like "I don't love you anymore," or "this will never work," etc., they really do think that. Now, maybe they only think that because they have convinced themselves of that so that they can justify what they are doing in their own head, but regardless, I think they do actually think it.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
