NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE II

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In the weeks to come I will when/if I see W in person ask her a question or two about her life. I think I will go with subjects like: her new TV-set, working situation and Christmas preparation. I will make the questions about something and not just generals like “How are you”.

I think this is a good idea, don't go overboard - you don't want to go from one extreme to the other but you don't want to seem like you can't stand talking to her either. Warm up a little..

If she starts talking I will simply listen and comment - I won’t share my own life and I will not try to fix hers.

It is good to throw in a little something about your GAL or W won't know you have changed or what she is missing. You don't have to say something every time but if she makes a comment where you can say "Oh yeah, the other night I was out doing xxxx and I felt the same way" or whatever so she knows you are building a life. You want her to wonder what happened to the F she knew and what she is missing.

Otherwise I will keep doing what I am doing in regards of e-mails, texting and phonecalls. I won’t reach out, I will answer questions but if she doesn’t state a question I won’t reply to her text/email.

You can add this is later, you don't want to change everything at once, but you can reply sometimes. If she says something funny reply with a or a 'haha'.

Little by little open up some. You are still LRTing but not in a cold way. From a couple of your recent posts, it sounds as if you have given the impression that you are not the least bit interested and are shutting W out because of her choices. Don't throw yourself at her feet, keep doing what you are doing and in little ways be a little more receptive to her.