A twist on cake-eating & dropping a bomb of my own

[tigerlily78]

I think AJM said it well. My H seems to have some moments of clarity like this too, but his actions are still those of someone confused and not ready to turn their journey in a different direction yet.

Like you, it gives me hope that at some level he is beginning to understand that the fantasy/escape is not bringing the lasting happiness they expected it to. But that doesn't mean they won't keep trying at it for awhile longer "just to be sure."