I just spent the last hour reading through your sitch and I am amazed by your strength. I, too, am in LIMBO and I hate it! My difference is that H is still in the house, so DB is different.
H mentioned S/D 3 months ago and no move/action has been made. I am beginning to take more time for me, GAL, PMA, DBing, but since he works so much, it is hard due to S6...the light of my life.
I look forward to following your journey and learning from you. It appears to me that you are making some wonderful changes and can only grow stronger!