Thanks, BA. You're right...I need to figure out what I want and communicate it to him. My LL is quality time, not quantity time, if that makes sense. I'd like to know where I stand. When we're together it's great but when we're not, my insecurities can rise to the surface.

Thanks, Kat. The marriage thing isn't a big deal to him. I suspect you're right about him not feeling like this thing "has legs" yet. And you, too, are right. I need to tell him what I want.

Thanks, Wonder. No, he's not married. There is nary a trace of a woman in his house. I've spent the night on a couple of occasions, too. I feel that he's keeping me at arm's length. This could be his personality or from having been burned. And yes, there's much I don't know about him, which I'd learn if I were integrated into his life.

Patience is not my strongest trait, but I've been working on it. Nor is trust, which is taking significantly more time. But I am largely intellectualizing things at this stage and looking at what is motivating me to make the choices I make and feel the things I'm feeling. All part of the voyage of self discovery. The bonus is that you don't get emotionally entangled in things prematurely. If this goes to seed tomorrow I will have grown. If it grows into something more, then I hope I can say I've found myself with a man who knows he's lucky to have me and whom I am lucky to have.


me 45
H 46
T 5
M 2.5
BD Sept 6 2011
OW Sept 8 2011
Threw him out Sept 8 2011