on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

Well - its a small victory but a great first step. She was home packing when I got home from the gym. We were civil to each other and talked about our days a bit while I ate something and she continued to move boxes out to her car. When she had a full load, she said that she would be drop her stuff off and be back to watch TV and go to bed. I told her that I didn't think it was a good idea and that she should stay at the apartment. I was also able to tell her that she shouldn't plan on coming to my office christmas party in a few days and held to that even when she said she was planning on coming and looking forward to it. I told her that as long as there was still contact with the OM of any kind - and since she will still be working with him in a few days, there will be contact - that we wouldn't hang out.

I felt like I had complete control of myself and the situation and it felt great. She actually got a little irritated during both discussions and tried to bait me into an argument about a set of suitcases my parents gave us when we got married. I just said that we didn't need to figure out who was getting what suitcase right now and walked away.

She left a few minutes later and called the house shortly after leaving to talk for a few minutes about some song she was listening to on the radio and to remind me to find a day when we could go to counseling together (WTF?).

Anyhow - its a small victory but its at least a good first step.

Before I got home I actually stopped the car around the corner from our house and re-read Sandi's and completelylost's responses to steel my nerve. Thanks guys!!