Feel like falling down

[willbwell]

retrouvaille thoughts cont...
I have made an app with a coach for tomorrow. I will bring it up with Lenny also.
Here's a little more to my thought process....
It is perhaps a last ditch effort on my part.
I do think I can claim to h that I have so very accommodating to his requests... I have not made any demands. I have acted with dignity and have been nothing but kind to him.

Yes, he has refused marriage counseling in the past. He is not interested in IC. I have not pushed it or made any ugly remarks about it.

H will say " why do I want him to do something he is not comfortable with doing." My response has been sometimes one does something for the greater good.

I know he may not get that and can only see/experience right now what is his own best interest.

Is it wrong or foolish to say...

You want D. I want therapy/counseling/retrouvaille (any one of these) Shouldn't you h have to compromise. I mean if you get what you want-D....What is it that I get??

I do not want to be manipulative here.
I don't see how it could hurt.
Why not give it a try?
H will not hold a resentment to me for making him go. I have already let him go... he has his freedom. we are married on paper only.
he would do it if it would mean he could have his D, which he is going to get anyway.

Do I get my heart broken again because he may not be into it?perhaps. But atleast I could say that I tried...

Thank you busting, job and kate's place(are you ruby??)for reading and feedback. i am afraid if we don't give it a try now(retrouvaille) then the D will go forward and that will be that.

I have to get off the computer now.
s17 and I share a computer and he is home so his turn- HW time.
I get up early 430ish central time. That is my computer time.

Yes, kate's place...hate living in the grey.